We’ve got more choices…
Being morbidly obese is hard in this society….
Being morbidly obese with disabilities that predated the obesity and are separate from it….is harder.
Let’s say you begin to exersize and your health improves.
You watch salt for blood pressure
You watch sugar to avoid diabetes.
But since you have a long way to go, you’re going to look Fat Enough to Laugh At for a long time.
There’s something besides comic fatshaming or extreme medical intervention…that we can do, and I think, should do.
I have a heavyset friend who weighs in only a bit more than myself…and yet she stays away from social events, from movies, or the parks, or church.
She isolates herself *by choice* and she admits part of the reason is so she won’t have to endure any staring or pointing, laughter, rude comments.
I’m a fat broad and I won’t do that. No one said you had to ‘get out less’ because you were fat.
I don’t know, the most I might do is choose not to eat in public, but even that seems extreme.
[It’s because I’ve had total strangers point at what’s on my plate and ask me if I should be eating that. So I don’t eat desserts in restaurants anymore. But the inquiry by strangers hasn’t stopped. It now goes to quantity. [“….do you really think you should be eating that much?”]
Will people be happy when I bring one of those little trays from the diet dinners to restaurants with me, or will they still get publicly nuts about the four bites in those trays ?
But I won’t isolate myself. It will be infrequent, but when family and friends are around to help me get around I’ll go visiting, I’ll hit the park I’ll go to films, theatre, religious observance.
I think fat folks make it harder on themselves when they hide away.
Being fat is tough enough. Don’t make it worse. Make a conscious decision to connect, to socialize, with friends and family.
You’ve got to feed your soul. You’ve got to feed your mind, your emotional life. Your creativity.
It’s going to be one of those:
1. You have to be from Cleveland for these jokes to be funny, and even then,
2. These jokes aren’t funny, unless you remember seeing them (or their incredibly less funny heir apparent, The Ghoul) when you were a kid.
Anyway, here are some youtube clips of Ghoulardi…I’m kinda amazed at what he got away with, even if it was late at night. I gotta say I like his rambling disorganization better than MST3k. Although MST3k did beat “Houlihan and Big Chuck,” and “Big Chuck and Little John,” all to hell.
Youtube linkage below: if they don’t work, just go to YT and hit Ghoulardi.
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“And Now The Movie, Folks!”
——and then the Ghoul that makes me cringe in comparison—-
Wow.
Have you ever seen writing from someone you know…And that writing got published….even though that was so awful that you wondered…”How in the holy hell did this ever get published?” I’m pouting a bit…because this is a clear example of worldly success resting on someone I never would have thought could do that.
Midlife And Treachery 
