Miracles happen

August 26, 2010 at 8:42 PM (Uncategorized) (, )

I’ve just been part of a miracle, and I had to share…

Circumstances have forced me to renew my lease at a place that is too expensive, and also will not make my unit more accessible…It’s only six months but…

The roomates wages have just been garnished.

I’m in line for an accessible apartment in my home state but that could take years.

We can meet the bills as long as we spend nothing on food. (I’ve got some foodstamp benefit for me, but that leaves the roomie with zero…) Two months from now the money situation will improve so that making the lease will be easier. I’ll be able to finish the lease, not break it, so that my rental history will not get clouded up and make moving in to the accessible apartment difficult.

Unlooked for and unasked for a blogfriend of mine whom I’ve never seen face to face heard about my situation and just decided to send me a load of food so large and so varied that it will get the household through the end of October ūüôā And, she must have been psychic because I’m on a restricted diet due to health issues and most of what she sent, I can eat…

I’ve thanked her, but there’s nothing I can really do in return. I wish I could…

Miracles happen. Yes they do.

And this old skeptic has to say it:

Thanks be to God.

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Since we’re talking about Social Security

August 26, 2010 at 9:26 AM (Uncategorized) (, , , , , )

I got this stuff from http://www.actuary.org¬† (link is to PDF)¬† …which also has what proponents and opponents say about each idea. as well as the percentage of the ‘solvency’ gap that each piece would ostensibly fix. (It comes out to over 100%, so each piece could also cut¬† a bit less and still (at least on paper) have the program clear.

This is something that I’ll get flamed for because it will please no one in the so-polarized-we-are-about-to-spontaneously combust environment.

I’m listing the stuff below, but with a caveat:

In my world *all* pieces would have to be a part of the puzzle, or none would be enacted.

And a lot of the things I like end up hurting beneficiaries who are older women, so it feels pretty bizzare….

But, my group of fixes avoids taxing benefits,¬† avoids ‘means testing’, (something I have no problem with but I know would never, never, never pass) avoids private pension cuts for those who have them, and avoids ‘gambling with the money of the marginalized,’ aka dumping benefits into the Wall Street arena, aka privatization.

1. Increasing the retirement age to 67 and indexing it thereafter¬† ostensibly corrects 26% of the funding imbalance.( If it’s so much per year how about a 13% correction of the funding imbalance by only increasing the age to 66? I’d prefer that.)

2. Reduce the COLA adjustment by 1 percent… which may fix up to 37% of the funding imbalance.

(I believe everyone had to do without a cola adjustment entirely in 2010, )

3. Raising payroll tax on employers and employees by gradually phasing in a 1 percent increase (from 12.4 to 13.4 percent ) could correct as much as 53 percent of the funding imbalance.

Who sacrifices:

Employers
Working people
And beneficiaries

(but, if the increase in the retirement age is left out of the equation only 76 % of the imbalance gets addressed.)

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A Sober Countenance

August 25, 2010 at 9:46 AM (Uncategorized) (, , , , , )

As the Deficit Commission decides where and how to cut…Social Security is clearly on the table.

It’s head Alan Simpson clearly seems to think that those opposed to cuts are blind to the problems with the system.¬† He doesn’t believe that those opposed to cuts have any solutions (They do, but they involve doing things he doesn’t like, like payroll taxing more people, and that isn’t quite the point of my morning screed today)

Well, they’re going to slice and dice the economic lifeline of seniors and persons with disabilities eventually.¬† It’s going to happen.¬† As they’re deliberating…this is what I *demand* -yes, that’s right, -demand- of my congresspeople whether I voted ’em in or not.

At least act.  Put on a damn show.  Look, and sound, like you regret doing this.  Couch it in terms of saving the system as a whole.

And since openly admitting you’re in favor of¬† moving retirement money to Wall Street is, shall we say, less than wise in this economic climate…you cannot do what you really want to do, which is praise corporate gambling with the money of the marginalized…well then, you have to have a profound regret-face and say, “Gee, I’m terribly broken up about this, but the $$$ has to come from somewhere….”

You don’t even really have to be broken up about it at all.¬† See,¬† that’s what I learned when I was able to hold down a job. If you’re in customer service, *part of the job description,* is working hard for every customer, giving sincerity to those who you understand and giving a constant cheerful earnest performance with customers who are less than polite… laying on the serious acting in order to solve the problem and diffuse a potentially adversarial relationship…¬†¬† You can’t just solve it.¬† You have not done your job unless the customer truly believes, whether from your¬† sincerity or well crafted artifice that you genuinely want to help them, or at the very least empathize with them when delivering bad news, or the fact that their options are limited.

As to the matter at hand,¬† privately in your own head, you can think descriptions¬† like this = Social Security without getting much blowback, because we aren’t mindreaders in this country yet…

It’s like a milk cow with 310 million tits!

What you shouldn’t really do though is commit these thoughts to an email you send to someone who disagrees with you…It might get out.

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Quirky, inventive and silly will save your brain

August 22, 2010 at 2:58 PM (Uncategorized) (, )

When you can’t make the rent, when the last ramen has left the cupboard, when you don’t really want to investigate how scary this is…
read her stuff, because her = funny.

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A quarter century ago…

August 21, 2010 at 1:02 PM (Autobiography, Disability) (, , , , , )

This was happening to me.  And this is what I think about it, with perspective.

It proves so many things.  That a fully fleshed out romantic relationship *is* possible for people with disabilities.

Again, that we’re people first.

That, some of the time, we hold down jobs, run a household, get married, hold off the inlaws…similar in many respects to the able bodied world…but our coping skills and abilities are profoundly different than the able’s.

And sometimes we don’t fcucking cope at all, and the able’s judgement of who we are can just go hang.

And the seemingly contradictory paradox, based on the whole relationship:

That I would never, ever want to go through the insanely rough times that followed after this again, and wouldn’t wish similar cirumstances on my worst enemy. And, frankly would avoid dating anybody, even that mythological perfect man, that was likely to have a long, slow medical nightmare of a downfall. Doesn’t mean I wouldn’t hang in there.¬† Doesn’t mean all persons with disabilities are out of the running. Just that if the likelihood of a long slow downturn in a younger person exists, I’m bloody well not going to throw myself in front of that bullet.

This last sounds almost like a betrayal of others with chronic severe illness.¬† (Separate from disability) I can’t help that.

Also sounds like hypocrisy in a way because I am a cancer survivor, which unfortunately *does* make it more likely to recur than¬† someone who has never had cancer getting it in the first place…

Can’t help that either.¬† Those are my emotional/investiture boundaries now, and I’m sticking to them.

At the same time, with time passing, I wouldn’t have missed a moment of the good stuff, and the bad stuff did teach me some serious life lessons about sacrifice, and duty…and no, not just my own sacrifices…He took a long long road, and eventually learned and practiced adult sacrifice as well, ¬† before he himself was sacrificed.

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