For the record, this is mostly sarcasm and snark. I don’t believe any of these assertions, but some of the able do.
Are you tired of it? I know I’m tired of it.
The temporarily able-bodied and their uninformed attitudes and decisions regarding us.
There are so many.
We never travel of course, so small and large businesses carp and complain when they have to make buildings accessible “Well I never see any disabled people in here, so why should I have to pay to alter my space?
We never need to live with our caregivers, so the one person limit on accessible apartments makes perfect sense, institutionalizing a unique kind of housing discrimination under US law.
We can never hear (or comprehend in some other way) what the able people in the same room with us say or decide about what we need to live with as few barriers as possible. Don’t worry. We’ll never express an opinion, either, that’s impossible too.
We never have the intellect to question discriminatory practices in medicine, building, hiring or leisure time choices.
People literally don’t see us sometimes, and prattle on while the failure to see us, the social discrimination is sometimes the most painful of all.
Or, the converse…they feel entitled to get all up in our business, where they would *never* be so discourteous with an able-bodied person.
We never have spouses, or partners or children. We’re undesirable. We never deserve intimacy, and us raising children? well that is unconscionable and needs to be stopped right away.
If we have creative talent it is often infantilized rather than taken seriously. Discrimination by disrespecting or stifling artistic expression.
And the most sinister kind of discrimination. Attempts by ignorant and dangerous people to control us because they can, to think nothing of depriving us of liberty, the pursuit of happiness and even sometimes life itself. Abuse by authority. Captivity. Physical, mental or emotional harm. By impersonal strangers. By so called friends. By family. Inappropriate institutionalization. Subtle pressure to embrace soi-disant euthanasia. ( Unfortunately, in the midst of a broader strange societal push toward rewarding willful ignorance about everything imaginable by a certain segment of those in power here in the US, it has made this worst kind of discrimination more frequent and easier to get away with. )
There’s hope against this though. Embrace real able bodied allies. Praise and celebrate them in a very public way, as an object lesson, a kind of “No, actually *this* is how to support us.”
And anybody with disabilities in the public eye either physically or virtually, via blogs, and the newest internet addictions, Facebook or Twitter…has often been another type of honest public face about what we need and deserve…
On a personal note, to illustrate this, my household has been going through a crisis of late and we’ve called on real able bodied allies to help in various ways…and they’ve come through in amazing ways. So thanks to them all.
Here’s hoping a more informed able population keeps pushing towards less and less discrimination by assumption.
Published a bit early to make the May1 UK deadline at Goldfish’s place