“You did that on purpose.”

May 17, 2007 at 10:02 AM (Assumptions, Attitude Adjustment) (, )

This is one of these arguments, whether it is had right out front word for word, or is in the subtext of the way a person with impairments is treated….I keep having to “handle” such perceptions about me each year, each time I go anywhere, each time I meet up with a new group of people.

So, I figure I’ll put up a Manifesto of Sorts:

I did not have that panic attack on purpose.

I did not miraculously acquire carpal Tunnel on purpose.

I did not go to the Universe before I was born and plead for Cerebral Palsy

I did not ask for asthma on purpose.

And I most certainly did not look through a catalogue of Mental Health Conditions and say: “Oh, just look at these!  I think I’ll choose Depression as part of mild Bipolar Disorder with a whopping side of Anxiety.”

And though I’m glad to have “survived” cancer…It was certainly nothing I lined up to ask for either.

But there are attitudes or words or phrases out there, subtle or direct, directed at many of us….something in some of the able *wants* desperately to assign the label of “manipulator” to us.

It makes those who assign such labels feel superior, I suppose.

Note to the Able.

Just *****ing quit.  Stop assigning labels, get on with your own lives, and dare I say it…

Mind your own godd@mm business.

1 Comment

  1. Attila the Mom said,

    I love you. I really really love you. 🙂

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