Saturday Fat Bashing

September 30, 2006 at 11:22 AM (Addiction, Fat) ()

…is going on over at Alas, and so I commented, but here is the corrected version of that comment. I am so completely *DONE* with the assumptions not-fat people make and can point and laugh at when a fat person comes into their sphere.

What makes me the most crazy, is since fat *is* the last acceptable point and laugh excuse, is no *matter* the reasons behind it that the strangers don’t know, *every* fat person faces the same type of discrimmination, disrespect,humiliation and shame. Once one is fat, strangers feel the need to police what we eat, what we wear, they feel they have every right to lecture us about it.
I’m a “dual eligible.” A person with disabilities that *predated* my obesity and still exist, *separate and apart from that,* that make excersize nearly impossible. (spastic pariplegia, asthma, etc) I do what I can. It isn’t enough.

I’ve been able to give up high fat foods easily…in Overeaters Anonymous parlance I have *control* over fatty foods. I can take them or leave them. so I am not “powerless” over *all* foods.

It’s my perception and belief (should apply to myself alone) that I’m a sugar addict. Not an overall food addict. Just sugar. Sugar is only one or two molecules away from the chemical composition of alchohol, and my family has a predisposition for alchoholism…so my own experience tells me that this is why a degreed, smart professional person feels helpless about ever being able to stop eating too much sugar.

I’m better at it than say five years ago, but I cannot seem to completely stop eating the low value high sugar stuff.
So what if it is an addiction for me? Alchoholics are told to simply stop drinking and given strategies to cope. Drug addicts to stop ingesting the drug.

But if one is addicted to a food that is bad for them? We *still have to go to the grocery*

It’s as if an alchoholic was told: You still *must* go to the bar every day…but only drink water while everyone around you is buying up the booze. Would any alchoholism counselor *reccommend* such nonsense? Of course not! But, for the subset of heavy people who percieve an addiction in themselves, this is precisely what society demands that we do!

And if we cannot walk into a place full of the addictive things, and walk out with chicken, turkey, soy milk and salads and a small amount of fruit…

Then, we’re “disgusting.” We have no “will power!” I wish everyone who points and laughs at fat persons would read about Health at Any Size, and about a medical root to a possible sugar/carb addiction…insulin resistance!

I’m over 300 and 5′3…the disability has made me two inches shorter than my DNA says I ought to be, so a small percentage of my problem is directly tied to things out of my control.

In order to survive cancer I had to take 50 mg of prednisone a day for nine straight months, that influenced me to eat more than I had before. I’m presently on a medication that has the single side effect of weight gain.

When food addiction recovery programs exist in such a way that processed sugar isn’t hidden in almost everything, and that I can make a choice not to shop…in other words *remove myself* from the situation entirely…then I may be able to work towards getting smaller.

Until then I won’t put up with anybody’s disgust or disrespect…To the strangers on the street “You don’t know how the **** I got here or have any idea of the difficulty of changing!” Respecting me as a person isn’t all that difficult, and frankly I demand it. That’s right. Demand it.

2 Comments

  1. Anonymous said,

    I am not fat, but my best friend is both fat and disabled (he is the sexiest guy I know, by far, incidentally), so this fat bashing stuff really gets to me. What I begin to find more and more exasperating is the fact that if I (super-skinny person (could use a few pounds more, but my DNA is having none of that)) go to the bakery and buy a couple of cakes every day to eat, it is cute. And yet I know that if my friend (or any other fat person) were to do the same, it would be viewed as disgusting. Who’s to say that it’s better for me to eat cake than it is for a fat person? Why is it acceptable for me to have no self control, when others are villified for just that? I hate the fact that people’s self esteem can be so severely dented because of society’s view of their body size. And that society gets away with villifying people because of their size, when it is no longer acceptable to do so on the grounds of gender, sexual preference, ethnicity or (in theory) disability. Do you know what? I don’t want my friend to be skinny or non-disabled. I want society to accept him as he is.

  2. Anonymous said,

    I am not fat, but my best friend is both fat and disabled (he is the sexiest guy I know, by far, incidentally), so this fat bashing stuff really gets to me. What I begin to find more and more exasperating is the fact that if I (super-skinny person (could use a few pounds more, but my DNA is having none of that)) go to the bakery and buy a couple of cakes every day to eat, it is cute. And yet I know that if my friend (or any other fat person) were to do the same, it would be viewed as disgusting. Who’s to say that it’s better for me to eat cake than it is for a fat person? Why is it acceptable for me to have no self control, when others are villified for just that? I hate the fact that people’s self esteem can be so severely dented because of society’s view of their body size. And that society gets away with villifying people because of their size, when it is no longer acceptable to do so on the grounds of gender, sexual preference, ethnicity or (in theory) disability. Do you know what? I don’t want my friend to be skinny or non-disabled. I want society to accept him as he is.

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